Are you pulled in too many directions, trying to figure out which fire to put out first?
Do you have too many deadlines and things on your plate to properly prioritize?
Most likely you know that you need to prioritize but just don’t have a spare moment so instead you bounce from thing to thing like a pinball in a pinball machine.
There’s a reason you are too busy to prioritize…. but it’s not what you think it is. Watch the video below to discover the hidden reason you are too busy to prioritize.
VIDEO TRANSCRIPTION BELOW
Recently, we received an email from a visitor, Amy. She asked us, “My biggest challenge is being too busy and deadline-driven to properly prioritize. What can I do?” First of all, thank you so much Amy for writing in to ask us this question.
This is a question that I think about just a gazillion, bazillion people struggle with, and I’m just gonna be fully transparent here:
That question is part of a collective culture of overwhelm that we live in that frustrates the hell out of me.
Overwhelm is a Social Problem
Overwhelm can be a life option but it is not the way any of us are meant to live our lives. Overwhelm causes fatigue; it causes us to be snarky with our kids, our loved ones. We feel like crap about ourselves. We feel guilty and we feel pulled. The reason I know this is because I’ve experienced burnout and overwhelm, but I assumed I was being super productive. In reality, I was so super productive that I was overwhelmed.
We’ve Got It All Wrong
We have it all wrong. Overwhelm should not be the norm. Overwhelm should be like, “Oh, check that out. I’m overwhelmed, huh, what’s goin’ on here?” And maybe it’s just for a moment. That’s what overwhelm should be.
Overwhelm should not be a chronic condition. The reason overwhelm is a chronic condition is because people think that everything outside of themselves is more important than they are. You may think, “Oh I have to meet this deadline and do this and do that and do that,” because everything around you seems more important than you.
You’re overwhelmed because you place more value outside of you than you do inside of you. TWEET THAT
It’s time to realize this, to wake back up.
Turn Back Time
There was a time when you enjoyed life, felt happy and fulfilled. It might have been a year ago – it might have been 30 years ago. Unfortunately, over time, you started to buy in to our productivity obsessed, do more culture that glorifies sleep deprivation and brags about multitasking. And eventually not having any time to prioritize became normal.
But it’s all wrong — and you feel it. You feel the overwhelm and it sucks. It sucks because it goes against how you are naturally meant to be and how you were born to live. But there’s a way to turn back time to that place, that feeling of fulfillment. You don’t have to be overwhelmed.
Fill Up Your Bucket
The biggest thing I would like you to take away is simple: I want you to realize that nothing out there is more important than what is inside you.
Who you are is a gift. Who you are and what you do is a gift to this world, but you can’t give your best, you can’t live your best, if you don’t give and live the best for yourself first. You can’t give what you don’t have, right?
If you don’t have a bank account with money in it, you can’t give away any money. It’s the same thing. If you don’t have any “savings account” inside yourself, if you’re not filling yourself up, you’re giving a lesser version of yourself. You’re living a mediocre life – and that’s the worst part. You’re not able to step into and live the beauty and the magnificence that is your birthright, whatever it is that you were put here to do.
Speak the Language
So notice when you’re ‘too busy’. ‘Too busy’ is talking to you. It is a language for you. It is you trying to tell you that you’re important. You’re worthy. It’s time to listen to that, to honor that.
Then, just take one baby step. Don’t try to revamp your whole life — just take one baby step. If you are experiencing ‘too busy’, identify the one area in your overwhelmed life where change would make the greatest impact.
- Where can you say no?
- Where can you draw a boundary?
- Where can you put your interests/needs first?
- What is the smallest action I can take right now?
- Am I giving too much to external situations?
The key to doing this is to do it from the inside out. Don’t do it from a pissed, angry place, right? Just say, “You know what, I choose me. I choose to fulfill me. And in order for me to have more to give to you, this is what I need.”
There ya go, done. It doesn’t have to be a whole big pissed off thing like, “I’m not takin’ that anymore!” or “I’m not doin’ that ever again!” No! It’s just a gentle way to accept what is already your birthright, your happiness.
What are you ‘too busy’ to do? Is it a chronic condition for you? Let us know how you handle it (or want to handle it in the future) in the comments below.